Why is my 12 month mentorship program called Living the F*cking Dream?
Because it was pretty much said to me almost daily whilst I lived and worked in Surfers Paradise.
Non-stop partying, free alcohol, fast money, and fast women. Pretty much living on pure adrenaline.
I'll never regret those days as it defined and shaped who I am today.
I remember how many times people said to me that I'm living the dream but deep down I knew I wasn't.
Back then, I didn't understand what was causing this deep sadness inside of me which led to this constant search for the next rush.
It's not necessarily that the things I was doing were wrong or bad, it's just when I wasn't doing something exciting I was depressed.
I needed that dopamine hit to feel.
Nowadays, I see so many on this hamster wheel of chasing happiness through things and experiences and you can see it in their eyes.
Social media has amplified this as the very people consuming social media are also looking for happiness outside of them.
I was blessed that my world came crashing down in my mid 20's through illness and this illness forced me to pause and self reflect.
At this moment, I realized I didn't love myself and my journey back to figuring out who Nicolas really is began.
I realized what I wanted was deeper than what I had, but I only knew how to live on the surface level.
Obviously for me, health became the building blocks for my recreation. I started tuning into my body. This is when I realised I'm an empath and that's why I was drawing people to me like flies on shit. Though the issue was, I was absorbing everyone's baggage.
The three key pillars I teach in my program are the three that had the most profound effect on me:
Confidence - I needed to own who I am, an empathetic. Highly intuitive introverted/extrovert. Trust me, it was difficult to come out of my shell in the environment I had got myself in. The deep patterns and beliefs many of us hold is what holds us back and one reason why most people never change.
Relationships - I realized casual sex and surface level friendships weren't for me. I didn't trust most of the people I hung out with and to be honest, lots of them were douchebags including myself.(Note some of the peeps in the photos are still some of my closest friends and are good people, I feel blessed to have these people in my life back then and still to this day)
So as stated earlier, I had to find myself then started creating my solid circles around me. Back then, I didn't even think of making a positive impact on the world. It wasn't on my radar but to be honest, this is why most people who want to change this world on a grand scale never will as their relationship with themselves has never been questioned or challenged plus the people they surround themselves with is not their dream team.
Lifestyle is the third pillar. It's still blows my mind that people don't correlate what they do for a living and how they live day to day with their health and vitality.
If your spending 40 plus hours a week not doing something that brings your soul alive, the path to illness is coming for you.
I get it, people have responsibilities. Eg their kids, which most people use as an excuse not to live up to their potential.
However, if you are sacrificing you true health and happiness for your kids then you are teaching them to do the same.
You can't tell them you can be anything you want if you are not being the example. You are just teaching them to be delusional.
Also I get it, it's tough if you're like me you who didn't get any favors in this world.
I came from a single parent family from a department of housing unit. I should be one of those statistics that didn't make it out.
However, I can say I'm living my dream. Of course there are aspects of my life that are not perfect right now but I'm still fulfilled.
Life is a constant wave and when you can catch that wave and ride it then your fulfilment is not external. It's internal and ever lasting.
This is what I teach and is my jam. This is why I developed the light house method to shine that light so deep into your soul that you find your way home.
Otherwise you're just stuff.
Your house Your job, career or business Your achievements The holidays you go on the success of your kids
Everything about who you define yourself as is outside of you and guess what?
If you are not being true to your calling or purpose, the universe will strip you bare of all of it so you can finally meet God inside of you.
Now am I predicting this happening on a grand scale? Fucking oath we collectively came here to evolve as a species and unfortunately many including myself got lost on the way so people will be shocked back into reality and out of delusions.
I'm not looking to work with the sleepwalkers. I'm looking to work with the leaders. If you have already had a bit of a jolt but can't find your footing then maybe I'm the guy to help you get grounded again.
If you want to have the best health you have ever had physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and confidently be who you are destined to be, surrounded by epic people who truly get you and live the authentic lifestyle your soul desires then my program is for you and all you have to do is reach out.
I'll end with saying stop living your life the way others want you to. Really going in and finding yourself again is the most courageous thing you will ever do but once you do, all the pain and suffering disappears and peace and true joy become your reality.
I'd be honored to help you get there.
Radical Responsibility with your health is the gateway to Freedom
Nicholas Fairbairn AKA That Health Dude
CHEK Practitioner - Integrative Health Coach