Love this post I found 5 years ago.
It's super interesting witnessing relationship dynamic these days, each to their own but what I crave is depth, I want to see someone fully and for them to also see me authentically raw and vulnerable this creates an intensity as it brings up all the shadows to be healed. I've been facing my shadows full on and witnessing my sabotage patterns and defaults, the hardest part is when you take 100% responsibility it's a brutal feeling but freeing at the same time as it gives you the power to create a life that's truly incredible.
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RELATIONSHIP ~ THE ULTIMATE YOGA~~
The healthiest relationships and friendships are not necessarily the ones that look happiest to the naked eye.
They aren't necessarily the ones where two people are always found holding hands, giggling, dancing and singing with the butterflies on Instagram, where nothing ever goes wrong and love is beautiful and blissful and perfect.
External 'perfection' can easily mask internal devastation, disconnection and that awful, unspoken desperation to be free.
The healthiest relationships are the honest ones. And they might not look so 'happy' or 'carefree' from the outside. They might not fit the image of what a relationship 'should' or 'must' look or feel like.
Here, two people tell the honest, painful truth about today, and continually let go of all their preconceived ideas about each other. The relationship is forever renewed in the furnace of authenticity. There may be ruptures, misunderstandings, even intense feelings of doubt and disconnection, but there is a mutual willingness to face this seeming mess head-on! To look - with open eyes - at the present rupture, and not turn away or cling to the past. To sit together in the midst of mutual shattered dreams and expectations, and work to find a place of reconnection, here, now, today.
Here, relationship is seen as the ultimate yoga - an ongoing and ever-deepening adventure and rediscovery of each other, a constant letting-go and a constant meeting! Love is not a future destination, conclusion, point of arrival, or a convenient story to tell others. Love is alive.
As Eckhart Tolle says, relationships aren't here to make us happy - for true happiness lies within. They're here to make us profoundly conscious.
To break us, to humble us, to make us whole again.
~ Jeff Foster
art: Lisete Alcalde